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We took a post-holiday visit for 4 days to see the family, since the flights to Cincy are pretty ridiculous during the holidays. It’s amazing to see your own kids grow up, but it’s even more incredible to see other people’s children, the ones that you see regularly but not too often. It’s been about 2 years since we saw my cousin’s family, and her son must have grown 6 inches in that time. My nephew, Nathan, is a 1st grader and he looks like a *kid* instead of a toddler. But he still plays really well with Sammie and is still obsessed with Spiderman, so it’s nice to see that some things don’t change.

Sammie seemed to get right into the swing of things, and after a few minutes she seemed to remember everybody no matter where we went. The best part is that she gets along great with my mom (Grandma Ursula), giving Huong and I some space. She had a lot of fun walking going on walks with her and their dog.

Weather-wise, Cincinnati in February is a cold place. It was a lot of freezing rain and occasional snow mixed in for good measure. Sammie didn’t seem to mind in the least that she was playing more with ice than snow. The drive down from Columbus the night we arrived was pretty exciting – it’s been a while since I’ve driven in snow, and the freeways hadn’t been plowed or salted yet. A nice reminder why I moved to California.

A nice trip overall, the only thing missing was cheese coneys. My mom was on another cooking kick, so there was always a home-cooked meal waiting. I guess I can live with that.

When I was a kid, sledding was something that I’d do in my backyard. Or maybe walk to the neighborhood park. And I’d do it pretty much everyday.

In California, sledding is an event. Last weekend we went to Pinecrest, on the way to Yosemite, to go sledding. We spent Friday night at my brother-in-law’s place in Tracy, about 45 minutes a way, and then in the morning we all piled into his SUV and drove 2+ hours. We brought Sammie and his 2 older girls. The night before we had to make a Target run to buy some snow boots – back in Ohio, people just had that sort of stuff. It was kind of expected.

Anyway, we played in the snow for a few hours on this big slope with a couple dozen other families (it was crowded, in typical California fashion), and we all had a pretty good time. The weather was nice too – a balmy 45 degrees. Sammie was pretty freaked out when we went sledding, but she loved throwing snowballs. Apparently kids nowadays don’t make snowballs the old fashioned way, they use snowball makers. I wish they had those 20 years ago. Aside from nearly knocking myself out trying to take a small jump on the sled, I had a blast.

All in all, it was fun but somewhat of an ordeal. Not that I’m complaining – I don’t like playing in the snow enough to have to live with it.

Well, La Jolla mostly. Huong, Sammie, and I were in La Jolla, just north of San Diego, Tuesday night through Saturday morning of last week.

I was there to attend a management training course for work and the other two were tagging along for a mini vacation. The course was called the “Foundations of Leadership” and despite the fluffy-sounding title was extremely interesting, and could be aptly called “Understand your own personality and how you relate to others.” Over the course of two and a half days we were run through both a Meyers-Briggs Type Indicator test (I’m and ENTP) as well as a FIBRO-B personality test, followed by a Conflict Dynamics Profile. This was all topped off by several role playing sessions on conflict resolution, persuasion skills, and delivering feedback. Fun, eh?

It was actually really fascinating. I never put much weight into these sorts of things before, but after seeing my results and reading into the interpretation of the data I was shocked at how accurate a lot of it was. For example, now I have an understanding about why I get so irritated when I find out about something at work through the grapevine — it’s in conflict with my high desire for inclusion . Similarly, I wouldn’t necessarily strike up a conversation with somebody in an elevator but I’d be happy to chat with them if they initiated — that’s a mid-range expressed affection coupled with a high level of wanted affection.Of course these don’t present excuses for behaviors, but they do provide a really interesting perspective with which to view personal habits.

Probably the most useful thing is that I now have a slightly different lens through which to look at myself and try to interpret my own behavior. And hopefully that will mean that I can take advantage of my natural tendency to be [spontaneous/disorganized/easily bored and distracted/conversational/wishy-washy/etc.] instead of fighting it, and be a little more sensitive to other people’s quirks.Far and away the most valuable thing I got out of the experience was that I should spend more time reflecting on what I want to do and how I want to live, and make sure that my career and my personal life both head in that direction. It’s common sense now that I think about it, but we ENTPs apparently don’t spend a whole lot of time reflecting .

So while I was having all that fun, Huong and Sammie hit the town: the San Diego Zoo on Wednesday, which included Huong getting a migraine and Sammie throwing a huge tantrum (and Huong telling an old lady to “go back to the old folks home” after she made a snide remark about Sammie’s screaming), an 8+ hour day at the Wild Animal Park on Thursday, and some kids activities on Friday. I joined them that afternoon, and we were supposed to go to Legoland but there was a torrential downpour all day so we stayed indoors and went to a kid’s playland.

Friday evening we spent out at dinner with my family, my aunt Esper and uncle Emilio plus my 2nd cousin Sonji. We had to trick Sammie into thinking we were going to see Huong’s sister, but once we got to the restaurant she warmed up pretty quickly and in a few minutes she was drawing pictures with my uncle like she’d known him forever. It was great to see them since it’s been several years since I last went down south to visit. They’re a lot fun, so I regret not spending more time down here.

Overall, I thought it was a pretty good trip. Huong…not so much since she had Sammie all to herself. Would have been better if I’d actually been on vacation, but we’ll take what we can get.